Practice Confidence with Gratitude


What’s the Situation

Yesterday, millions of Americans gathered with friends, family, and loved ones to celebrate Thanksgiving. I have always enjoyed this holiday. As a kid, it was more about the time off from school and the good food I got to eat/prepare. Early on, I was put in charge of pie-making and deemed Lemon Meringue a “holiday pie.” Still today, Thanksgiving doesn’t feel complete unless a Lemon Meringue pie is involved.

As I’ve grown up, though, this holiday has become much more about the people I’m with and taking an opportunity to humbly give Gratitude for the good in my life. I have found that Gratitude is a powerful practice that has a tangible positive benefit in my life.

What’s the Strategy

Gratitude challenges us to focus on the good in our lives. It requires of us an internal review and retrospective contemplation. But Gratitude isn’t any ordinary review; it’s a personal mission to identify the good. Gratitude is like reading a textbook in college; we review our lives and highlight the important parts.

And what ends up happening is that we start to see a story emerge. A story of all the good in our lives; key plot points of happiness, joy, and success that too often get lost in the mire of day-to-day doldrums.

In my last post, I talked about intentionally rewriting the story of your life. That we could choose better words to describe ourselves. That we could increase our Confidence and Spiritual Energy by doing so. What choosing better words does for our lives moving forward, Gratitude does for our lives looking back.

What’s the Impact

Gratitude isn’t about retconning (i.e. trying to revise or change) what happened to us or how we got here. But rather, this is about recognizing the consistent and comforting presence of good in our lives. It is about telling a better story overall and embracing the benefits to Confidence and Spiritual Energy:


  • Confidence – Gratitude is about telling a better story about our lives, a tangible increase to Confidence and a boost to Spiritual Energy.
  • Values – I have often found that the good we highlight through the process of Gratitude also shows us the way our actions have contributed to our Values, which is a boost to Spiritual Energy.
  • Self-Valuation – As a final benefit, the focus on personal good improves the image we have of ourselves, a boost to Self-Valuation and Emotional Mana.

Those are all benefits I want to see in my life, so this year I am committing to making Gratitude a regular part of my life, rather than an annual holiday tradition. I invite you do to do the same.

Now if you’ll excuse me, I have some leftover Lemon Meringue pie to enjoy.

See you at the finish line!

-The Jack of Spades


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